What is Mediation?
Mediation involves you and your partner working with a neutral person or persons—your mediators—to make the necessary decisions for your divorce or separation. Your mediators are there to guide your decision-making process.
Your team of mediators at Long Island Divorce Mediation will:
- Help you define the decisions you need to make.
- Facilitate discussion about those decisions.
- Guide discussions to help you work through disagreements or roadblocks and issues that are troubling.
- Provide facts about the law and divorce process, when appropriate.
- Bring in documents and facts and even experts, if needed, to inform those discussions and decisions.
Mediators, unlike a lawyer, serve both of you as a neutral third party and, most importantly, serve to facilitate communication to help you, not your lawyers and not a judge, make the necessary decisions for your separation. So you are in charge, and it is your opinions, priorities, and goals that drive the process.
In addition, your mediators are bound by confidentiality. They serve both you and your partner, and they cannot divulge anything discussed during your sessions to anyone, not even a judge.
How does mediation work?
Your first meeting with us is a free initial evaluation. This meeting gives you a chance to meet us and ask questions, and it allows us to review your basic circumstances and recommend a course going forward—how many sessions we foresee, what will be the important issues to address, etc.
Then, once you hire us and depending on your particular circumstances, you and your partner will meet with us for perhaps four to six 2-hour sessions.
We will begin by further defining and elaborating on the decisions to be made.
The main areas that may require decisions in the divorce process are:
- Division of property and assets
- Handling of taxes
- Custody of children
- Parenting time and arrangements
- Child support
- Spousal support
- Health insurance
If any experts are needed to provide information, such as an appraiser to value property, we will have them available to provide the needed services and resultant information.
If there are laws that can inform or simplify any decisions you need to make, we will present them to you, so that you can use that information in reaching agreements.
As you make your decisions, we will translate your agreements into a legal document—a document that will be filed with the court and serve as your divorce or separation agreement when the process is complete.